You spend time reading Buzzfeed, clicking link after link of: Top 10 lists, Funniest Puppy Photos of the Week, and taking quiz after quiz to discover what character you are from a certain film/show/game.
Have you considered what character you are in real life? Who is your character in the various roles you play – professionally or personally (friend, lover, teacher, sibling, son/daughter etc etc.)?
Is this the character you want to be? Take a step back and examine your qualities. Not just the glamorous ones. Check in with yourself about where you’re falling short.
A character is typically a role that someone acts, but who do you want to be at your core?
Earlier this year, I underwent a period of deep introspection on the character role I was assuming in various parts of my life.
After much reading, reflection and speaking with individuals whose opinions and guidance I highly value – I realized how small I was playing and how many people I let down (including myself) in the process.
The character I was playing was one of weakness, shame and false bravado.
Sometimes we don’t know til we know. And that often comes from the fall.
I pushed people away, bottled up my true feelings, and denied my responsibility in a multitude of situations.
Changes were necessary. Major changes. I sat down and wrote a list of qualities that I had to fully adopt and embody to become my ideal self. Qualities that would serve both myself, those closest to me and those whom I wanted to reach.
I’ve benefited from taking my own character quiz. My life and relationships have done a complete 180.
Now ask yourself:
What character would you like to be if there were no limitations? How would you act under stress if you had unlimited power?
There are no limitations. You do have unlimited power.
Stop fooling yourself and making excuses. Visualize who you want to be, and meet that self halfway there. Build.
When was the last time, if ever, that you actually observed your behaviors and actions and tied those in with your intentions and motivations?
This is not an easy task. For most of us, its hard to admit our faults. It takes courage and honesty.
If someone were to write a story about you, would your character exhibit the ideal qualities you want? If not, think about what you would and WILL do differently.
Spend some time creating this character. Take the time analyzing where you are currently not lining up with the same qualities. Then start practicing. Embody this person. Breath the air they breath.
Because after all, this is just practice.
Life is one big experiment.
Question your day, start to finish. Take an objective view (step outside yourself) and analyze a single day.
Look for wins. Look for holes.
Look for areas that need improvement. Search for spots where your ideal character would act or be different.
Then, next time you are in a similar situation, act with intention. The intention of the character of your desire.
Who are you?