Forgiveness is a quality of a strong and empowered person. Hanging on to the negative feelings and associations of anger, hate, sadness, resentment, and disappointment will eat you bit by bit.
The more you feel those feelings, the more they become you and you become them.
Don’t believe me? Try it.
Surely there is someone who has wronged you that you’ve decided never to speak with since. Or perhaps you’re passive or passive-aggressive towards them now. If this person is toxic – fine, cut them out. I’m all for it. But you can keep them out while still forgiving them.
We all have flaws. No one is perfect.
We all have different perspectives and views, so what means one thing to one person will mean something absolutely different to another. That’s fine and natural, although this is generally the catalyst for conflict in any relationship – lack of empathy and understanding for another person’s viewpoint.
Is this person doing the best they can to improve themselves and learn from their mistakes?
If so, forgive them if you believe they deserve it. You should talk things out to see if you can find common ground on whatever issue drove you apart.
If not, and they are making the same decisions, kick them out. Don’t keep toxic people around. Even if you love them, hard as that may be.
Life is too short to keep energy suckers in your circle. It’s not up to you to fix anyone. You and only you can control yourself and ideally – live by example.
Theres venom inside you. Right now. Something is eating you alive, slowly.
You blame yourself for something. Maybe you fell short in your pursuit of a goal, let a friend down when they needed you or hurt someone you loved.
I’ve been there. All the above.
Spend some time alone. Talk to yourself if you have to. Or write it out. Step away from all distractions so you can focus on what’s destroying you.
You’re still on the same life path. Its important to realize this. Did you veer so far off course that you can’t get back on? No. You can always get back on. Even if you’re a few steps back. Grab the wheel and get back on right now.
Its up to you to make the decision.
That’s why everything that happens in your life is a lesson. So you can experience and experiment.
Forgive yourself, learn, and move on. Be better NOW.
We all fuck up from time to time, no exceptions. And as shitty as it is sometimes, thats one of the beautiful parts of life – the growth process. We fall, we grow.
Resentment and hate are baggage.
Step into the wind and watch them blow into the horizon.
You and only you can make the decision to hang on to these feelings.
Free yourself from all this weight.